There comes a time when you may have to start considering a care home for your loved one. This can be a really difficult decision to make, and it’s natural that you might start to feel guilty at some stage. However, this shouldn’t be the case…
The moment you start considering a care home for your loved one can feel like a failure. This seems to be particularly the case when people are faced with the proposition of putting their parents in a home. In this instance, it can feel like you’re letting down the person who looked after you for all of your childhood years, and that you’re inadequate as a caregiver.
However, it’s completely natural to have to consider a care home at some point. Looking after someone with a degenerative condition such as Alzheimer’s is hugely taxing, and can often be upsetting and demoralising. It is difficult to equate this to the act of bringing up a child…
You shouldn’t feel guilty because you feel like you’re prioritising your own commitments or even your own children over your loved one. You’re not being selfish – you need to look after yourself.
Care homes are often better equipped and laid out than most people’s houses, and will offer your loved one a chance to socialise with people their own age.
Some people report that care homes have allowed them to start enjoying the time they spend with their loved one again: you don’t have to be weighed down by the challenging care routine.
You can also go to sleep at night knowing that your loved one will be safe if they have an accident, something that worries many people. In a care home, help will be at hand immediately.
Of course, care homes are not for everyone, but you should never feel guilty about considering a care home for your loved one as long as you feel it is the best solution for them.
For further advice on care homes, please see the Alzheimer’s Society website.
If you’ve found this article helpful, then you might also like to read our blog on how to know when to consider a care home for a loved one with dementia.